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how to use sex toys for healing sexual abuse

When it comes to healing from sexual abuse, sex toys can be a powerful and safe tool. I remember when, after a lot of processing and work, a friend of mine suggested that we try using a sex toy to help her heal from her abuse. I had never heard of such a thing before, but it was eye-opening to learn the potential healing power of sex toys.

Part of why sex toys are so helpful for healing from sexual abuse is they help to rewire the connection between pleasure and sex. Since so much of the trauma and hurt associated with abuse centers around feelings of pleasure, it can seem impossible to undo the negative associations of pleasure and sex. But with the help of a trusted sex toy, it is possible to reclaim pleasure and eroticism in a shaming-free and safe environment.

Because sex toys are designed with pleasure in mind, it is almost guaranteed that any type of sex toy or device will bring joy. From massage oil to vibrators, dildos, and various BDSM devices, sex toys can be tailored to suit individual needs. One could go for the sleek, luxury feel of designer devices for sweet and sensual pleasure if they wanted to, or for the more daring and kinky type, they could get their hands on some BDSM toys to explore and express their sexuality.

The beauty of using sex toys when healing is the level of control it can give you over your body. Instead of feeling like a victim to your abuser and the humiliation and disrespect that come with it, using sex toys can give you back the positive control. This is an empowering feeling and can help bring back those feelings of confidence and security.

Another benefit to using sex toys when recovering from sexual abuse is the deep understanding that can come along with using them. Taking the time to explore your body and your pleasure can be an incredibly healing and enlightening experience, as it can bring to light the different ways you can experience pleasure.

But perhaps one of the greatest benefits to using sex toys and pleasure for healing from sexual abuse is that it gives you permission to explore. As you start to use toys for pleasure, you start to understand new ways to experience pleasure and satisfy yourself. With every new experience, you get re-educated about your body and reap the benefits of the pleasure that comes from that understanding.

What I found along my journey to understand and heal from my sexual abuse was that sex toys were no longer just about the enjoyment I could get from them, but also the self-exploration and understanding I could gain from them. Allowing yourself to try different devices with different levels of intensity can open doors to new experiences that can be incredibly valuable to help heal.⁣